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Pluto in hard aspect to Moon in the birth chart: Emotional roller coaster

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Pluto in aspect to Moon has been a particular focus of mine as of late, as I went through the Pluto square Moon transit, which was for me a spectacular emotional transformation. If you're interested in Pluto - Moon transit, I recommend you read this post, as the themes are exactly the same except experienced temporarily.

As it also often happens when you go through a particular Astrological energy in your life, I ended up surrounded by people who either have Scorpio Moon or Pluto in aspect to Moon, ah. So here I am today, exploring Pluto in hard aspect to Moon in the birth chart. Pluto has to do with attraction and repulsion, addiction and compulsion, fear of loss, change, and the unknown. What a program! Pluto, in its higher energy, represents a connection to your inner power, which allows you to develop strength, resiliency, and a capacity to uplift others and power through life. As well, Pluto promises the integration of the shadow, which represents wholeness and goodness. Massive program!

Moon, gentle and vulnerable Moon, is so foreign to all of these themes, but at the same time, Moon and Pluto share much more in common than meets the eye. Moon represents childhood conditioning, when you're at a tender age, absorbing everything around you, operating at an entirely subconscious and emotional level, when you're dependent on your caregivers for your survival. That's Moon energy, dependency, emotional bonding, nurturance, safety and familiarity. Enters Pluto - insert dramatic music. When someone has Pluto conjunct, opposite, or square Moon, there is everything Plutonian, mixed with everything Lunar. Often it presents itself as someone who has: - A strong tendency to experience emotional push and pull (difficult relationship to intimacy, back and forth emotionally, difficulty staying grounded emotionally) - A strong tendency to experience emotional addiction (to your own emotions or someone else's) - A strong tendency to experience primal panic, anxiety crises, or emotions so intense it creates a sense of fear, death, loss of control (which can be summed up as panic attacks) - A strong tendency to experience a sense of having to be in control, having to control emotions, having to repress emotions, keep a lid over emotions but also emotional needs - An extreme fear of loss, change, unknown, death (which can show up in very subtle ways) - Tendency to have a compulsive attitude towards preventing emotional change or loss - Tendency to resort to emotional manipulation (not in a villain type of way, more so as difficulty with being vulnerable and open)

We can speculate on the reasons as to why this happened. Often, there is something dysfunctional in the family of origins, with either a very bonded emotional system but one that is unhealthy, imbalanced, demanding or controlling; or, there were elements in the family/environment that created a sense of lack of safety. Regardless, the person is often left growing up with intense and powerful emotions that overwhelm them. Moon wants to be safe above all - and Pluto wants to destroy. That's easy to see how someone with Pluto and Moon in difficult aspects would be having a lot of difficulties with feeling safe emotionally because this safety will usually only occur after a massive emotional destruction and reconstruction happens - not a happy program. All of what I described above steam from this difficulty with feeling safe. Moon-Pluto is all about safety, and safety occurs in safe and healthy relationships, which are difficult to achieve usually with this aspect as there is a lack of a model for what a healthy relationship looks like. So often, the person indulges in relationships that are unhealthy but very intense and dramatic emotionally, which resonates well with their natural tendency to have emotional outbursts and intense emotions.

Very often we find people who are at polar opposites: Either, someone so terrified of their own emotional world that they keep everything really tight, hidden, repressed (Often happens with the conjunction of Pluto and Moon), or we find someone who feels helpless, dominated by their intense emotional swings. In both cases, learning that there is nothing wrong with them or their emotion is a first step towards healing, as it then comes down to learning how to cope with the ebbs and flow. I've often witnessed Moon-Pluto be associated with emotional addiction, which can be surprisingly linked to OCD, as it is an obsessive behaviour which occurs because there has been an emotional reward associated with the behaviours, hence, an emotional addiction. What's very interesting for both OCD and any type of compulsive behaviours (you can have a compulsion without having OCD and vice versa) is that release comes from acceptance and not from more control. You cannot control a compulsion by obsessing over not having one, that's entirely impossible. Do note, I'm not a specialist nor am I a medical practitioner, so please do see a therapist and in particular a trauma-informed therapist if you need help, but on an Astrological perspective, which is what I'm debating here, it's very interesting to notice the patterns between compulsions (Pluto) and emotional rewards (Moon) and how someone with these two planets tucked in together can experience this theme more intensely. Another way emotional addiction shows up is behaviours that are destructive (Pluto) and are meant, subconsciously, to keep up a sense of chaos, which might be familiar. Moon rules the familiar, so with Moon-Pluto we can be comfortable in chaos. There can be a tendency to self-destruct emotionally, either by sabotaging emotional relationships, or by choosing relationships that cannot thrive emotionally.

Another thing with Pluto-Moon is often this tendency to have difficulties with being emotionally open and present in an intimate relationship. Once the transit is integrated, it is meant to become the person's strongest point, a capacity to not only receive but also emit emotional connection, emotional responsiveness and presence. Often though, and especially with the hard aspects, there is such a fear of losing control, of being "exposed", vulnerable, with the underbelly in the open, that the emotional connection is limited. You'll find a good capacity to be emotionally resilient, to endure pain, but usually there is more difficulty to sustain intimacy in a non-dramatic way, which can feel numb, or dull. Sometimes, you'll find someone who continuously chooses very "dramatic" partners, who tend to act out for the Plutonian person all of the emotions they are not comfortable (yet) with expressing. Once something tips the person off and pushes them in the direction of releasing the emotional pressure, great vulnerability can be achieved and as the control is released, relationships improve. This transit is all about achieving safety and someone doing everything they can, albeit often in dysfunctional ways, to feel safe. As I said earlier, safety comes from emotional connection, and so often, there is a strong focus on achieving it, despite usually using means that are promoting the exact opposite.

Pluto and Moon actually have a lot in common, in the sense that they both want emotional bonding, however, Moon does it by nurturing and caring, while Pluto tends to choose the path of control and manipulation, as the fear is heightened. Once Pluto is done shedding its layers, though, Pluto will do everything in its power to maintain an emotional connection - to death. If you have Pluto and Moon in hard aspect in your birth chart, here's a list of suggested books that will probably help you enter or continue your journey of emotional shedding: - Hold me tight - Attached - 7 levels of intimacy - Getting the love you want

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